Mary Abbajay | Managing Up: How to Succeed with Any Type of Boss

Mary-AbbajayMary Abbajay is the President of Careerstone Group, LLC, a full-service organizational and leadership development consultancy that delivers leading-edge talent development solutions to business and government. Mary has over 20 years of leadership experience and is a frequent contributor to print, radio, and television publications such as Forbes, The New York Times, and the BBC.

In addition to this, Mary currently serves on the Greater Washington Market President’s Board of BB&T Bank and is a past Chairman of the Board for Leadership Greater Washington. She is also the author of the best-selling book, Managing Up: How to Move Up, Win at Work, and Succeed with Any Type of Boss.


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Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

  • Mary Abbajay explains the concept of managing up and why it’s important for your career trajectory
  • Why the topic of managing up resonates with so many people
  • The typical career path for success in America and why you should learn to be a good follower
  • How can you manage up?
  • The various types of difficult bosses and how to deal with them
  • Mary discusses the critical differences between a difficult boss and a toxic boss
  • Why it’s okay to quit a toxic workplace
  • How remote work affects communication and some strategies for staying connected to your boss
  • Mary’s Platinum Rule for life in and out of the workplace

In this episode…

Do you get along with your boss? If not, how much do these workplace relationships impact your career trajectory? And, what are some strategies to start improving your communication with your managers—especially if you’re working remotely?

While there’s no blueprint for workplace relationships, getting along with a boss may be more important for your career than you think. With over 20 years of leadership experience, Mary Abbajay is an expert in all things managing up. As she says, the people above us have a huge amount of influence over our workplace opportunities and success. Today, Mary’s here to outline everything you need to know to have a better relationship with your boss and start managing your way up in your organization.

On this episode of The Lawyer’s Edge, Elise Holtzman talks with Mary Abbajay, the President of Careerstone Group, LLC and author of the best-selling book, Managing Up: How to Move Up, Win at Work, and Succeed with Any Type of Boss. Mary discusses the concept of managing up and shares her tips for dealing with difficult bosses, avoiding toxic workplaces, and communicating effectively while working remotely. Stay tuned!

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